Stop Trying to Fit In. You Were Born To Stand Out-

Most people spend their lives trying to fit in and yet somehow secretly expect to stand out from the crowd. Early programming has taught most of us to be humble and not to be proud. Most of us were never taught the difference between pride and arrogance.

I believe we were ALL born to stand out! We are all unique in the skills, abilities, personalities and purpose we have been blessed with. The last thing we should do is blend in to the crowd.

People want to have outstanding resumes and yet those same people want to learn how to fit in at work when they do get the job.

Why is it some people just “stand out” and leave lasting impressions on us while others we meet are quickly forgotten?

Some people leave us feeling better about ourselves and the world around us. Others brighten the room by leaving.

The difference between someone who stands out and the ones who just blend in isn’t necessarily huge. Most times the smallest differentiation can be the key to establishing your uniqueness and brilliance.

  • The difference between a smile and a frown is only a few muscles.
  • The difference between a positive response and a negative one is just a few words.
  • The difference between a great tip and a poor one is just a few bucks.
  • The difference between a well-written post or email and a poorly-written one is just a few minutes.

Things That Can Make You Unique

  1. Become a reader. One thing that can make you unique is being a reader. Reading is something very few people do. Less than 42% of college graduates ever read a book after graduating. Simply becoming a reader will set you apart and differentiate you from the crowd. We are transformed by the renewing of our minds. Learn how to become a reader. Here’s my recommended reading list to get started.
  2. Wear a smile. If you can’t be happy all the time, at least learn how to appear happy when you are in publicBe positive, enthusiastic and passionate about everything you do. An upbeat, positive, professional attitude stands out. No matter what life throws your way, it’s important to show that you can stay confident and upbeat. If you’re not having fun , you’re not doing it right! People generally enjoy being around folks who are pleasant, encouraging, and uplifting, rather than complaining, negative, and miserable.
  3.  Be friendly.   You should always be the first one to greet others when meeting them. Do it in a musical, upbeat and friendly tone of voice with a firm handshake. Be open and approachable. Engage others and show a genuine interest in their lives and their thoughts. Find a mentor to help you get to know people. Build relationships based on trust. Let your personality shine through in everything you do. Be you!
  4. Communicate intelligently. Be confident, respectful, and concise in all of your communication. The reasons effective communication is necessary are obvious. Pay careful attention not only in e-mails, but also in your social media posts, on the phone, and in face-to-face conversations. Give your full attention, maintain eye contact, and don’t be glancing at your smart phone.  An attentive, respectful listener is hard to find. Developing great communication habits goes a long way towards standing out from the crowd.
  5. Be outstanding in your field. Commitment, dedication and involvement stand out. Be more prepared than everyone else on your team. Do your research, gather your resources, and show up prepared and ready to work. If you’re actively engaged and make a significant contribution to your team, it will be noticed. Volunteer to take part in charity events or be a part of activities that are outside your duties and obligations.

By: Ben Kubassek

Handwork and fate

I have two widely prevailing and mutually contradictory views on hard work. One is that  however hard you work, you are only going to  get whatever is there in your fate. Other one is that ‘nothing is impossible’. First view is held by those who are either influenced by creationist ( God will do) or who have experienced failures in spite of hard work. Second view is held generally by those who have experienced success.

My views on hard work are somewhat statistical. To me fate is nothing but chance. While people say somebody is born in rich family by fate, I would say it is so by chance. Thus it would be more appropriate to say that hard work doesn’t guarantee success, but improves its chance.

Do you agree?

The Origin of Human Dilemma

The human mind struggles to grasp reality, but in practical terms can only generate various concepts and theories that have their limitations. Identifying their boundaries of applicability is essential. If these boundaries and limits are not well defined, concepts and theories may turn into dogmas and one is left with illusions of understanding. Concepts and theories cannot fully describe the ultimate reality due to the inaccessibility to all the elements of emergent reality, and due to the inherent unknowability of all that remains to be discovered and understood. Thus, some disconnect from reality is inevitable and humans are caught between illusion and reality. The fundamental problem of illusions seizing the individual’s awareness is the resulting reluctance to see things as they are and to be seen without illusions (Ben, 2011).


As we gain experiences with particular type of social institution, we develop rules how to behave in those situations. when an individual travels by airplane for the first time, there is initial confusion about where to go in the airport. what to do with his/her luggage, how to act towards flight attendants and so on. with in experiences the traveler learns the “rules” for checking in, boarding the plane, stowing carry on items, ordering foods and drinks, interacting with seat-mates, and the likes. Once acquired, these rules prove to be applicable in airports and on airplane almost anywhere in the world. The set of rules we developed for airplane travel illustrates how past experience became structured knowledge for use in processing new social information. Such knowledge structure are known as Schemas. Schemas are sets of rules or features that represent what we know about categories of objects or events in general.


By: Tadesse Gedefa Mekonnen

Leencaa fi Jaldeessa

Jaldeessatu haadha manaa leencaa jaallatee ani bareedaan kun sijaalladhe jedhee haadha manaa leencaatti hime isheenis tole jetteenii galtee ‘osoo ati jirtuu jalduu tortoraan sin jaaladha naan jedhe’ jettee leencootti himte. Obbo leencoonis mala male haadha manaa isaatiin akkas jedheeni guyyaa tokko inni hin jiru jedhiitii marqaa marqii waami ani immoo baaxii manaa irran taa’aa jedheen Isheenis marqaa marqitee jalduu waamte. Innis dhufee marqaa erga nyaate booda ana moo obbo leencoo keetu irra bareeda jedhee irra deebi’ee haadha manaa leencaa gaafate. Isheenis situ bareeda jetteeni. Booda osoo obbo leencoon amma sitti dhufee maal goota? jettee gaafatte. Innis hin shakku (hin sodaadhu) jedheen.

Yeroo kana obbo leencoon baaxii irraa gadi bu’ee jalduudhaan maal asii goota jedhee gaafannaan rakkadheen kadhaa dhufe jedheeni. Itti aansee obbo leencoon funyaan kee kana maaltu akkana sigodhe? jedheen. Jaldoonis ganamaaf galgala waaqa osoon kadhuun akkas ta’e jedhen. Leencoon deebisee hudduu kee kanahoo maaltu akkas sigodhe? jedhee gaafate. Ganamaafi galgala mukarran foqoqa isaatu akkas nagodhe jedhe. Harka kee kana hoo maaltu akkas sigodhe? jedhee gaafannaan ganama ririma galgala ija mukaa funaanuutu na luqqise jedhe jedhamaa.


Contraception use sharply increased by five-fold in Ethiopia

Ethiopia has made a greatest stride in improving family planning and contraception services for all women since the last two decades.  According to the 2014 Ethiopian Demographic and Health Survey report, the use of contraception has been sharply increased by five-fold among currently married women. Health Extension program is the biggest facilitator for the success history, where 38,000 front line health extension workers based at 17,000 health posts bring education and contraceptive products and services to rural women across the country.

In 2000, only 8 percent of women were used any type contraception, however this number sharply increased to 42 percent in 2014. This great achievement is because of Health Extension Workers who have been continuously contributed to this success. This achievement indicates that providing contraception through health extension workers, who are able to effectively reach rural population in need of contraceptive counseling and services, is a strong step in the right direction to address the unmet need and improve maternal health throughout the country.

According to the study conducted by a group of researchers on trends of modern contraception among married women based on the 2000, 2005 and 2011 Ethiopian Demographic Health Survey, modern contraceptive prevalence increased from 6 percent in 2000 to 16 percent in 2005 and to 36 percent in 2011. The analysis indicated that 34 percent of the overall change in modern contraceptive use was due to difference in women’s characteristics. Changes in the composition of women’s characteristics according to age, educational status, religion, needs to have children, wealth and place of residence were the major source of  this increase according to the groups of researchers.

National and international non-governmental organizations such as USAID, CDC, Pathfinder International, Packard Foundation, DKT-Ethiopia and Family Guidance association of Ethiopia have been contributed a lot by financial and technical support to expand access to family planning and contraception services in the country.

The government have planned to increase the service to 66 percent and to reduce unmet need for family planning to 10 percent by the end of 2015. To reach this ambitious target, provision of Family Planning services at community level through the Health Extension Program in crucial. Health Extension Worker plays a vital role in providing door-to-door service at household level to reach the government’s objective.  They provide family planning packages including counselling and information related to family planning and contraception. They also distribute condoms, contraceptive pills, providing injectable and inserting Implanon ( a single rod implant) at the community and health post level across all region in the country.

By Tadesse Gedefa Mekonnen